A simple way to look at paradigms is to see them as maps. Each of us has many, many maps in our head which can be divided into two main categories. Maps of the way things are, and maps of the way things should be. We interpret everything we experience through these mental maps. We seldom question their accuracy; we’re usually unaware that we have them. We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be.
The more aware we are of our basic paradigms, maps or assumptions, and the extent to which we have been influenced by our experiences, the more we can take responsibility for those paradigms, examine them, listen to others and be open to their perceptions, thereby getting a larger picture and a far more objective view.
When you are able to consciously make the correlation between the thoughts that you have been thinking about money, the way you feel when you think those thoughts and the money that flows into your experience, you can make the necessary changes to improve your financial situation.
So often we assume that when we say “I want more money,” that we are speaking positively about money. But when you are speaking about money and have a feeling of fear or discomfort as you speak, you are not speaking about “plenty money,” you are speaking about the “absence of money.” And the difference is very important.
It’s of value for you to become aware of how you are really thinking and more important, feeling about money. If you are thinking or saying things like: “Oh, that is a very beautiful car – but I can’t afford it,” you are not allowing in the abundance that you desire. The feeling of disappointment that is present as you acknowledge that you cannot afford it is your indicator that your thought is pointing more toward the lack of what you desire than toward the desire itself.
So here are 3 steps to get you started:
1. Acknowledge what others around you may be saying about money matters. You then make the following statement, “I understand that the people around me hold different views about money, spending, saving, giving money, receiving money, and it is not necessary for me to understand their opinions or perspectives.”
2. Develop some positive statements, for example: “financial abundance comes to me easily and effortlessly and I accept it now.” “I love the idea that more money gives me more choices, I will buy that car and I will live in a new neighborhood.” “I am increasingly magnetized to money, prosperity and abundance.” Repeat these statements often so that they become second nature.
3. Develop a positive expectation and attitude as you look towards the future as shown in this example, “I understand that money will not necessarily appear instantly in my life with the changing of my thinking, but I do expect to see a steady improvement as a result of my conscious effort to think better feeling thoughts. I am certain about that.”
To change your outer world, you must change your inner world. It is imperative that you believe that you have the capacity to make the necessary changes to your financial future. So begin today by first becoming aware of what you are thinking and saying negatively and change that to something more positive that will bring the desired results.